How,Stressed-Out,Are,YOU,amp,# DIY How Stressed-Out Are YOU?
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How Stressed-Out Are YOU?Are you feeling stressed out? Too many things to do, too little time? One more thing added to the To-Do list and you feel like youll explode?Whoa there, no exploding allowed! You can handle itjust listen in.Listen? To what? To your self-talk. Not yourself talk, but your SELF-TALK. Listen in to the demands youre making of your time, but more importantly listen in to how youre saying them and what youre saying.Many of us dont pay particular attention to what were saying to ourselves. Weve never been taught the importance of how damaging it can be to us nor have we been shown that we can use it to feel much better. You can literally un-stress yourself by using your own self-talk.Listen in for need-, -have-to-, -must-, type statements that you make to yourself.First I need to drop the kids off, then I have-to go to the grocery store, then I need to stop at the bank, then I have-to get home and work on those taxes before having to go back out and pick up the kids.Youve just created a lot of demands on yourself. And yes, in order for your life to continue like you want, you would prefer to do all those things just like that. But you dont NEED to, HAVE-TO or MUST.By using demanding statements on yourself, you open up a lot of opportunities to say irrational things to yourself that create stress.When you use demanding statements, you then create a scenario of what-if in your head. And when the what-ifs back-up, then watch out stress level!What if I dont get it done, what if I dont get there in time to get the kids, what if this, what if that. This is when you really go into stress mode!Asking such open-ended questions is the origin much of your stress. You often answer with that would be awful, that would be terrible which compounds the stressful feelings even more. Since awful and terrible are labels way beyond bad, (actually labels that are beyond definition) youve created a situation in your head that ends up with you saying to yourself and I couldnt stand it if that happened, or I couldnt stand feeling that way!Its indeed a vicious cycle of thinking that is common to all of us. Fortunately, once you know how, you can think your way out of these situations as quickly as you got in.So where do you start? First, flag such have-to, must, need-to statements in your head. Then replace the needs, musts and have-tos with preferences, desires, and wants.Then when something doesnt go according to your desires, reduce the awfuls and terribles to simply, bad. Then rest-assure yourself that you can stand it.What if you dont make it to the bank? What if youre late picking up the kids?? Well, its not what you wanted, it may indeed even have consequences which may be bad, but in the overall scheme of things it isnt awful and you CAN stand it.A great deal of stress is caused from within by this I-cant-stand-it-it is. Remember: whenever you hear yourself saying need-to, have-to, got-to, etc replace it with want-to or would like to. Substitute needs with desires; musts with preferences.And remind yourself that awful things will not happen if your desires are not met. You may not like the results if things dont go your way, but you can indeed stand the feelings. It may not be good if things dont fall into place like you want, but the world will continue to spin and you will be able to handle it.It takes some practice. Dont expect it to happen for you like magic. Pay attention to your self-talk, listen for the what-if statements, flag the must and need statements. Dispute them with wants and desires. Do it vigorously. With time it will become second nature, and youll notice the lack of stress in your life.
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