Dealing,With,Inconsiderate,Roo DIY Dealing With a Inconsiderate Roommate

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Almost everyone on this planet has had them, the roommate youwish you never had. Whether they have parties every night, come home drunk,bring home too many men/women, are messy and disrespectful or just plain rudeto live with. They can be a source of constant stress and headaches and prettymuch make your life a living hell. Sometimes you can easily get out of thosesituations, you may be in control and able to ask them to leave. You might haveenough to get your own place or find that it’s an easy task to just move. But what if those aren’t options, what if you are stuck in adorm room with them, they own the house you are staying in, or you can’t leavefor financial reasons? Then it essentially comes down to two choices; you caneither suck it up and just let it be, or you can confront them and tell themyou’re having a problem. Whatever option you choose you are going to have totake certain steps to make it work. Dealing WithIt: If you decide that you would rather just suck it up and dealwith it than you are going to have to make sure that you’re not living in hellbecause of that choice. You are going to have to work around the problems yourroommate is causing. For example if they have a party at the same time everynight at the same time make sure you are out during that time. Go to a friendshouse, go for a walk, go for a night out on the town, go to the library;wherever you need to go to accomplish what you want that night. If they are messy then you might have to resort to cleaningup their mess if you want a clean house. Consider vacuuming during the day anddoing some light cleaning, not enough to put a dent in your day, but enough sothat the house isn’t in such bad shape. If they are just plain rude to be withthan avoid them if possible, you don’t have to hide just do what you can tokeep the peace. If you know they are going to bring some “company” home thatnight and you don’t want to hear the “fun” they are going to have than Isuggest leaving the house or putting your headphones on and listening to yourfavorite music. Of course altering your life because of these issues isn’tideal but if you would rather do this than confront your roommate that’s whatyou’re going to have to live it. It’s not fun but it’s certainly better thanbeing in a constant stage of agitation and stress. Confrontation:So sitting back and just taking it isn’t your thing, youwould rather confront your problems head on. More power to you! Just rememberconfrontation isn’t always an easy thing. Confronting someone you live with canbe especially challenging because you can’t go home to get away from them.Whatever problems might arise from the confrontation are ones that you’re goingto have to live with. Don’t let that deter you though, if the confrontation goeswell than you will be a much happier person for it. The key to making aconfrontation work is how you word things. For example lets say the problem is that they constantly makea lot of noise when you’re trying to study. Instead of going out and yelling atthem it’s better to go out and say something like “I’m trying to study is thereany way you can keep the noise down?” That way you’re asking nicely and yourgiving them a solid reason behind it.  Ifthey are always throwing parties then you could say something like this, “Ilove a good party but sometimes it’s nice to have a peaceful night, is thereany way you could throw them less?” You could even say, “Tell you what, if youthrow the parties less I will help you get everything ready and clean up.” Thatway you’re offering them something in return for them complying with yourwishes. The key to telling your roommate about the problems you’rehaving is to not demand them to stop. You can’t start yelling at cursing atthem and expect them to handle it well. But if you confront them when they arein a good mood and word it nicely, but still firm enough to get your pointacross you will have a better response. Depending on the situation you couldalso do the whole “It’s me” thing. For example if your roommate always leaves amess behind, leaves the kitchen in a state of disarray ect. then you could saysomething like “Maybe it’s just me but this kitchen seems pretty dirty. Isthere any way we can work together to keep it cleaner?” That way you aren’tattacking him/her just getting your point across and your offering to help inthe process.I hope this little article helps if you are going through aproblem with a roommate. I know exactly how hard it is from personal experienceso believe me when I say I understand your pain. But if you choose the paththat’s best for you and act on it than you can live a better life until you canget out of that situation entirely.