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The loss of a family companion animal is difficult, and my heart goes out to you. We come to love our animals and feel a deep sense of loss when they die. Some people tell me theyve felt more grief over the loss of their dog than of any human being in their life. Its not always recognized by others, but those would only be people who have not lost an animal companion they loved. Or I should say, who loved them. They give us the unconditional love that helps us thrive. When we find out our pet is going to die, we each react differently. Each of us experiences grief in a different way. Maybe your partner is angry, and you are tearful, and you are both dealing with the impending death of your animal companion in your own way. The stages begin with denial (shock) and then move on to rage, I believe, but it's a spiral, or an onion, not linear. It comes in waves and doubles back and different feelings are layered in there. It is normal to not hear that your pet is going to die and its normal to be enraged that nobody cares, nothing can be done, and it cant be fixed. And also to be angry that you and the animal are suffering so. Some individuals are more prone to turning tender feelings into anger, and sometimes we just dont want to talk about it. In fact, and this is particularly poignant, one of the reasons we love our animals so much is because when we're upset they'd don't ask us why. They just stick around and love us, same as always. Remember the general family EQ guidance that all feelings are welcome here, though all actions are not. Your partner is an adult and is in charge of his or her own wellbeing, as you are of yours. As with any adult, you can accept and acknowledge the feelings, and can make it known youre available to talk with. If there are any behaviors from this anger that are destructive in any way, then seek help. You can also use, When you say X, I feel Y. Please do Z. Any two adults will generally grieve in a different way. Theyll be at different stages in the grief process, have different backgrounds, different histories of previous loss, have different personalities, and also can reverberate off the other, i.e., if hes crying all the time, then she becomes stoic. If shes angry, he tries to remain calm. Stay centered and manage your own grief process. Take care of yourself. Massage is good at such a time, as such grief is beyond words. If this is one of your childrens first major loss, its going to be a tremendous growth process for them, as you know. Be there. Dont demand they feel one way or another. Dont try and fix them. Process when you can with them as a means of sharing the adversities of life. Adversity builds resilience, and difficult as it is, theyre part of life. Seek comfort and help for yourself friends, a minister, a coach, a therapist. Take care of yourself and model this for your children. You cant share the whole experience with them because they arent having the same experience as you because they are they, and you are you. Im sorry for your loss.
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