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Planning family holidays is a particularchallenge for the millions of divorced families out there. In fact, oneout of three Americans is part of a blended family (and I suspect thestatistics are similar for Canadians). Divorced families face an evenbigger challenge with holiday planning with children shuttling back andforth between mom's house and dad's house. There are all thoselogistical questions. Whose turn is it to have the children forChristmas morning? What if both parents are having a turkey dinner onthe same day? What do you do if you end up solo on a major familycelebration day?Is there a better way for divorced families tosurvive the upcoming holiday season? The key is doing some advanceplanning and preparation. Without that, holidays can end up being atime for stress and re-opening of old wounds, both for divorced parentsand their children, instead of a time to relax and unwind. I believethese 5 tips will help to add more fun and relaxation to your holidays.1. Become a Chess Master.Insteadof planning your holidays one at a time, take a look at the overallpicture of the different holidays e.g. summer vacations, Halloween,Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year's, Valentine's Day, Mother's Day,Father's Day. Plan and negotiate a few holidays ahead, just like thechess master thinks a few moves ahead. Getting the big picture andseeing all of the options at one time makes it easier to identifytrade-offs and compromises that work for everyone.2. Keep the Children's Best Interests in Mind.Beflexible and use your children's best interest to guide you. Studiesshow that children do the best after divorce when there's cooperationbetween their parents and they maintain ties with their extendedfamily. Keep the long-term best interests of your children in mind whenmapping out holiday schedules and logistics.3. Don't Use the Children as Messengers.Theholiday schedule should be agreed upon by the adults before informationis shared with the children. Don't promise your children a specialfamily time with you before you reach agreement on that with yourformer spouse. Communicate your schedule requests directly to yourformer partner, not indirectly through your children.4. Create new family holiday traditions.Thefamily looks and feels different after divorce, so it's a great time tocome up with new traditions. Instead of the post-Christmas dinnerfamily walk, perhaps you start a post-Christmas dinner karaoke contestinstead. Explain to your children the opportunity to create somethingnew. You may choose to celebrate holidays on different days than thecalendar says. Including your children in the discussion and planningwill give them a sense of security, pride, and ownership in asuccessful outcome.5. Be prepared.If you don't have yourchildren for a holiday, be pro-active and make a plan for yourself.Find some friends to be with or get involved with charities need anextra hand in the holidays, like a soup kitchen or family shelter. Article Tags: Divorced Families
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